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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 8:30:52 GMT -6
I know a lady and have known her a long time. Her husband died 2 1/2 years ago, she's very wealthy. She's started to date and her children which are grown are upset about it. She has several grandchildren, she about 70.
It's upset a number of people for various reasons. Any thoughts on this?
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Post by tindalus on Jul 26, 2014 9:42:00 GMT -6
Why would it upset anyone? doesn't she deserve to be happy? And if that means finding someone to share her life with, is fine.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 11:00:41 GMT -6
I feel the same as you. But they sure don't. In time they will be able to wrap the minds around it....I think.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 28, 2014 20:46:39 GMT -6
When I saw the word 'wealthy' that set up a red flag. Money always stirs up tensions. Sometimes there are reasons for grown children to wonder if their elderly parents are being taken advantage of, because it does happen.
On the other hand it is the lady's money and she can make her own decision if she is mentally capable.
Maybe a pre nup or even a partial pre nup would satisfy all concerned.. otherwise, as I said, the decision is her's alone to make.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 4:38:45 GMT -6
Her husband left her a millionaire, not a multi-millionaire but shall I say she's doing okay in the money department.
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Post by samsara15 on Jul 30, 2014 15:35:44 GMT -6
Being A millionaire is not a big deal anymore. Tens of millions, or hundreds, is what it takes to be a big deal. Most middle class retirees who had fairly good jobs and saved money while working are millionaires, but in the very low millions. Less than five, or three. That's where I am.
If it makes her happy, her children should be pleased. People in the 70s and 80s get lonely, too. They need the company of another human being. I kid Sara that if I died, she could get lucky and meet a nice person.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 18:05:18 GMT -6
Being A millionaire is not a big deal anymore. Tens of millions, or hundreds, is what it takes to be a big deal. Most middle class retirees who had fairly good jobs and saved money while working are millionaires, but in the very low millions. Less than five, or three. That's where I am. If it makes her happy, her children should be pleased. People in the 70s and 80s get lonely, too. They need the company of another human being. I kid Sara that if I died, she could get lucky and meet a nice person. The lady we speak of I would never have thought would be like this. However she's committing no crime or sin in doing so. I've been single for years and I don't date and I'm ok with it. I also save my money, I just started on my second million, I gave up on the first. I don't believe having only a million in the bank would be so bad. I would like to know. Money can't by you happiness although it wouldn't hurt anything either.
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Post by samsara15 on Jul 30, 2014 19:25:51 GMT -6
It never does buy happiness. Nothing can buy or ensure happiness. Not even companionship. But it's better to be well off and not completely happy than to be poor and not completely happy. Each of us, however, has to find out for ourselves what is best for us.
I worry about our son and his finances, and given the lack of job security in the modern business world, his future.
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Post by samsara15 on Jul 30, 2014 19:31:07 GMT -6
For myself, or Sara, I don't worry.
We've had long lives, and have much to be grateful for, and cannot expect to live and be healthy forever. Life ends, and that is something we should accept gracefully. We have our day to play in the sunshine, and then it ends, and another generation takes the stage.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 19:52:56 GMT -6
Being A millionaire is not a big deal anymore. Tens of millions, or hundreds, is what it takes to be a big deal. Most middle class retirees who had fairly good jobs and saved money while working are millionaires, but in the very low millions. Less than five, or three. That's where I am. If it makes her happy, her children should be pleased. People in the 70s and 80s get lonely, too. They need the company of another human being. I kid Sara that if I died, she could get lucky and meet a nice person. The lady we speak of I would never have thought would be like this. However she's committing no crime or sin in doing so. I've been single for years and I don't date and I'm ok with it. I also save my money, I just started on my second million, I gave up on the first. I don't believe having only a million in the bank would be so bad. I would like to know. Money can't by you happiness although it wouldn't hurt anything either. Some people are content alone. Others are not. If she has found someone with whom to share her life.. good for her. If she has a good relationship with her kids, I''m sure she has provided for them in her will. She deserves another shot at happiness. Someone to cuddle with, someone to share her happiness and her fears ( we all have some at some point in time ) I wish her good luck and many happy tomorrows. Is there any particular thing on your radar that makes you think she is making a mistake ?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 20:08:01 GMT -6
Only that her husband hasn't been dead that long and her children are upset over it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2014 7:10:40 GMT -6
In all honesty it seems to me there would come a point (age) where people would no longer be driven by primordial urges and instincts. The elderly deserve honor and respect. The Bible calls gray hair a crown. A late life romance is the quickest way I know to lose respect from family and friends
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Post by samsara15 on Aug 1, 2014 20:52:59 GMT -6
Do you think there is something wrong with feelings, with enjoying our senses, at any age? Why do you reject this life? If you reject this life, why would you ever want another life?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 2, 2014 3:46:36 GMT -6
Limitations, would you expect a 6 year old child to drive a dump truck? There's nothing wrong with feelings but we can't always go by what we feel, feelings can lie.
Have you ever felt mad enough that you could have killed someone? Of course you have and so have I, but we didn't. The reason we didn't is God gave us a wonderful mind to reason things out. Young people have all these feelings and it's normal it's the way life is and it should be. But for elderly people to try to rekindle these feelings and then act upon them is absurd. I'm sorry to be so blunt but you did ask.
These are only my opinions, admittedly I have always been a step ahead or behind.
Twice I married older couples, in both cases with in a few years one or the other died causing mass confusion among their children.
To answer the last part of your question. Do ye not therefore err, because you know not the scriptures, neither the power of God? For when they shall rise from the dead, they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels which are in heaven. Matthew 22:24-26.
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Post by samsara15 on Aug 2, 2014 13:22:50 GMT -6
You're welcome to your opinion, but I don't share it.
Citing scripture perhaps is valid as a tool to explain to me why you feel the way you do, but I do not share your faith, and besides that, am quite sure that many others of your faith feel differently about this issue.
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