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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2015 11:17:14 GMT -6
sydney : "I don't think a parent should go around beating up on their kids but the kid must know it's there if the situation calls for it."
There is NEVER a situation that allows for aggravated child abuse We raised a daughter and she a daughter,and the thought of striking her with any object never entered our minds. As I said, you cannot inflict pain and then expect the bond between parent and child to remain in tact. I was never abused by corporal punishment,. It's repugnant to me.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2015 11:38:19 GMT -6
We disagree. I have a stepfather that I love but when he said don't do it, that was it. We never got in any kind of trouble. So he was good for us.
You can't reason with a young child their minds have not developed to the point of weighing the end results.
To me it like the laws we have. No one goes around throwing you in jail or prison but you know it's their, same difference.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2015 14:24:39 GMT -6
sydney "We disagree"
Yes, we most certainly do.
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Post by lowell on Jul 26, 2015 17:32:57 GMT -6
Punishment and Reward are the two methods which the Buddha uses to guide common mortals to enlightenment. Common mortals are like children and the Buddha is like the parent. Parents use punishment and reward to break their children away from bad thoughts and behavior and to bend them toward good thoughts and good behavior. Some children require only mild punishment, for instance, taking away a favorite toy for a short time, or making the child sit in a corner. It is a mistake to use harsh punishment when a mild punishment will be effective. Timely retribution is also more effective. When I was young I tried to steal an attractive small figurine from a Woolworths store. My mother saw me slip it into my pocket and she made me hand it to a clerk and apologize. The embarrassment of getting caught and facing the shame, was something I never forgot and was very effective at curbing my selfishness. A married couple I knew, were very sure that children could be raised without physical punishment. They eventually had three sons all about two years apart in age. I was riding in the car with the mother when her sons became very contentious and teased each other in the back of the car. They were wrestling and shouting with each other. The mother told them calmly to stop, to calm down. They became louder and more violent with each other. She told them again a little louder to stop. They did not. Then she told them she was going to count to three. They continued to misbehave and of course their distraction could have led to a car wreck. She counted loudly "ONE, TWO -" They stopped and sat properly in their seats and looked fearful. She didn't have to say "THREE". I knew the reason. There was something very physical and very unpleasant that would happen if she had to say "THREE". She had taught them this at home more than once. I smiled because this is for most parents, just what is required.
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